Thank you for laying this out so clearly and articulately. Would you feel comfortable if I link to it on occasion? I tend more toward advice-giving than advice-undesiring, but sometimes I get unsolicited advice myself that's either inappropriate or simply not what matches my needs at the time (sometimes I just want a listening ear, not a fixing mind) and I have had trouble finding the right words to say 'thanks but no thanks' when I am in that kind of state.
Also, re: me being advice-giving type, please gently bop me on my metaphorical nose if I thoughtlessly cross such a line with you. I try to pay close attention when people say 'no advice!', but sometimes I make mistakes or am inadvertently projecting a little and trying to fix for others what I wish to fix in myself, and that is emotionally imposing & not how I want to be in the world.
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Date: 2012-10-14 08:43 pm (UTC)Also, re: me being advice-giving type, please gently bop me on my metaphorical nose if I thoughtlessly cross such a line with you. I try to pay close attention when people say 'no advice!', but sometimes I make mistakes or am inadvertently projecting a little and trying to fix for others what I wish to fix in myself, and that is emotionally imposing & not how I want to be in the world.